Description
Issue date 01/10/2019
Number of pages, weight, size 320 pages | 660g | 152*214*30mm
200,000 copies sold commemorative recovery edition
To you who have to face the pain in your heart that you wanted to turn away from
Warm comfort and clear advice from Dr. Eunyoung Oh
We live as if nothing happened on the outside, but we all live with thorns stabbing ourselves in our hearts. Are there any of us who don’t get sick? In the absolute relationship between parents and children, sometimes hatred, pain, resentment, and guilt grow and leave unresolved wounds inside. Because of that wound, many people struggle with the pain and burden of life without knowing why.
Acknowledging my feelings about the wounds I received in childhood, accepting that I am a being with various desires, and recognizing my true self will enable me to live with a sense of stability for the many days to come. As a psychiatrist, this book analyzes in depth the numerous painful stories that have been pouring in through mental counseling on the paper, where the pain of people who came to the author and poured out their broken hearts, not knowing what to do, came from, and how to deal with it. It contains the best advice that has been studied with agony.
Everyone feels that life is not easy, but those who experienced ambiguity and fear in their relationship with their parents in childhood have more difficulties living. To those of you who are too tired to sit down, to those of you who are tired enough, the author tells you to try a little harder to notice me. The you then, when you couldn’t do anything, and the you now are different. This book gives warm comfort and clear advice to believe that you have the inner strength to say that you were hurt then and still hurt.
Index
· Opening | The ‘you’ who were in so much pain, who among us isn’t ‘you’?
Part 1. Parents, but…
How could I have done that as a parent?
– What kind of parents are they that are so sick?
-It’s okay to hate your parents
-Not all parents are ‘parental’
– Say ‘I hate you’. Confess that it was “too hard”
– You may understand, but you may not be forgiven
-Keep your distance. don’t try to be good
-If you separate your parents from me and study them as a different entity
-Why do parents remember only what they did well, and children only remember what they did poorly?
It was a love that gave more pain the more I loved it.
Part 2. So, I…
It’s not your fault, then you couldn’t help it
-I hate my parents, the heart that hates me is bigger under that heart
– I can’t decide even the smallest things on my own
-I just put up with nonsensical things
– I hate doing it when I think it’s what my parents want me to do.
-I keep meeting bad guys
– I can’t say ‘No’. Relationships are difficult
– There is no time to love because there are so many ‘should’
-Parents hitting me, me hitting kids
– Company people are bullying. Just look at the company
-I have sexual mysophobia. A child’s sex education is a concern
-The child ignores the parents who did not go to college
-When it’s too hard, I think ‘I wish I could just die’
– I keep regretting in countless trivial daily life
– I feel abandoned even if I don’t understand even a little bit
– Can I reconcile with my inner pain and that despair?
Part 3. But again, parents…
Don’t be afraid, your child is not like you.
-You say you don’t want to be a mother like mine
– Your child will never be as big as you. don’t be afraid
– Why are you so sorry? Guilt is not maternal love
– Discipline is necessary. But don’t be scared
– I think that the child is not really on my own
– The child who wasn’t like a child was actually sick.
– Parents always have to reach out again
-Don’t be too spleen in front of parenting, it’s okay
-Don’t take your child’s feelings into your thoughts
– To develop self-confidence in children
-In the end, ‘warm memories with parents’ are the most important
-If the thought of wanting to grow well becomes too strong, ‘my greed’ in it
Part 4. And again, I…
If you know where the pain begins, you must also know where the happiness comes.
– Holding hands with my inner self is ‘reconciliation’
-“Is this something to be so sad about?” and talk to me
– Acknowledge the wounds I received and the desires inside me and accept me
-Don’t suffer so much that the roots of my life are shaken.
– ‘Ah, I’m starting again, vigilance!’ I have to shout to myself
-If only you don’t suffer, it’s okay as it is now
– You’re a nice person, but I don’t like all of you
-Avoiding the things you hate more than dying is the wisdom of living in the world
-It is very likely that the path I am on right now is the best.
-I just do my best for the given day
· Closing | Forgive me every night before bed
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サユリ 秋野 from トロント, カナダ (verified owner) –
最初に、私がこの本を手に取った理由は他の著者による精神的な解説には疑念を抱いていたからです。しかし、オ・ウンヨン氏の言葉が次第に心に響きました。この作品では幼少期への視点変更が力強く語られ、自身の日常生活にも深い理解と癒しへ導くものがあります。彼女は暗闇で育った傷跡について触れることで、その過去との和解を促します。そして今、それぞれがお持ちになる無数の欲求や気持ちを見ることができました。誰も自分だけではないというメッセージのおかげで、新たな希望さえ見つけることもできます。他人との差異でも同調感覚が感じられて、一体性ありながら独特。本書から受け取って確信しています。
Marisol Luyando from Lima, Peru –
At first glance, I wondered how a book could truly unravel the chaos buried beneath years of silence and expectation. Oh Eun-young’s *Reconciliation* dared to dive deep into those jagged caverns where emotions have been hidden away like long-forgotten heirlooms. As someone raised under the watchful gaze of rigid traditions in Lima, Peru, it resonated with my own battles against suffocating familial shadows. Her gentle yet assertive guidance felt almost intrusive yet liberating; every page crafted as an olive branch toward healing an oft-ignored inner dialogue. If you allow it entry into your heart—and yes, that’s terrifying—the clarity might just change everything about how we navigate life’s hurdles draped in personal despair.
Sofía Morales from Oaxaca, Mexico –
You ever read something that feels like it just sees right through you? Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation’ is one of those reads. I swear, every page made me feel a bit lighter—like shedding some emotional baggage without even realizing how heavy it was until then. Growing up with parental expectations in Mexico wasn’t easy, and the way she addresses unresolved pain hit home so hard. It’s not therapy; it’s more like having a wise friend who’s been there all along and knows exactly what you’re dealing with on the inside while still offering hope to heal! Seriously recommend if you’re carrying stuff from childhood.
Sarai Antunes from Salvador, Brazil –
Eun-young’s work resonated deeply, unveiling layers of emotional strife embedded within familial bonds. A poignant reminder to embrace one’s shadows for true healing.
Jordan from Melbourne, Australia –
Man, this book is a real gem! Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to Face the Wounded Inner Me’ really hits home. I didn’t expect it would resonate so deeply with me as I’ve had my fair share of emotional ups and downs growing up. The way Dr. Oh explains those unresolved feelings we carry from childhood? It’s like she knew what was rattling around in my head! Each chapter gave me some solid insights on recognizing and accepting those old wounds instead of shoving them away. It’s written beautifully—very comforting yet straightforward advice without being overly flowery or complicated, which is just how I like things.
I honestly felt lighter after reading through it; it’s one thing to talk about your struggles but another entirely when you get that clarity from someone who truly understands these hidden battles we all face inside ourselves. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or even just curious about emotional health, give this a go!
Liam from Melbourne, Australia –
So, I recently picked up Oh Eun-young’s “Reconciliation: Courage to Face the Wounded Inner ‘Me'” and wow, it really hit home. The book dives deep into those childhood wounds we all tend to brush off, ya know? Dr. Eunyoung’s writing style is super warm and relatable—like having a heartfelt chat with an understanding friend who knows exactly what you’re going through. The advice she offers feels genuine; it’s not just fluff but rather practical stuff that you can actually apply in real life! I’m now more aware of my feelings about past experiences I’ve buried away for too long. After finishing it, I felt lighter somehow—it’s like shedding some old skin or something! Definitely recommend this if you’re on a self-discovery journey because honestly, we’ve all got some thorns we need to face!
Sarah from Perth, Australia –
So, I picked up Oh Eun-young’s *Reconciliation Courage to Face the Wounded Inner ‘Me’* and wow, it’s a real gem! The book is all about dealing with those tough childhood wounds we tend to brush off. You know how it goes—smiling on the outside while battling inner demons? Dr. Eun-young just nails that feeling. Each of the 320 pages feels like she’s sitting right there beside you offering gentle advice and comfort, not judgment.
What really stuck out for me were her exercises; they encourage reflection but in an easy way—I wasn’t overwhelmed at all! After going through this treasure trove of insights, I felt more accepting of my past baggage instead of running from it. Honestly, if you’re carrying some emotional weight or just wanna learn about yourself better, this read could be your perfect companion! It might sound corny but I’m actually pretty grateful for having stumbled upon it.
Jessica from Sydney, Australia –
I recently got my hands on Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to Face the Wounded Inner Me,’ and let me tell ya, it was a real game changer for me. The way she digs into those childhood wounds we often shove down? Spot on! Dr. Oh has this warm approach that feels like chatting with an old friend rather than reading some clinical book. Each chapter just hits home; I mean, you can really relate to the whole concept of dealing with pain that’s been tucked away in our hearts for too long. It’s not all fluffy self-help either—there’s clear advice that pushes you towards acceptance and healing without feeling overwhelmed.
The layout is easy on the eyes, which is always nice since I’m usually juggling a busy schedule here in Sydney between work and family stuff. This isn’t just another trendy read but something meaningful that’ll stick with ya after you’ve turned the last page.
I’d definitely recommend it to anyone looking to face their past instead of hiding from it!
Anna from New York, USA –
Reading ‘Oh Eun-young’s Reconciliation’ was an enlightening experience. Dr. Oh offers warm comfort and clear advice that resonates deeply with those of us dealing with childhood wounds. The book consists of 320 pages filled with insights on how to confront feelings of resentment and guilt, making the reader feel understood rather than judged. I appreciated how it encouraged me to acknowledge my emotions instead of suppressing them, ultimately aiding my personal recovery journey significantly.
Katie from Toronto, Canada –
So, I just wrapped up Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation’ and honestly? It’s been a game changer. It’s packed with advice that feels personal, like she gets where I’m coming from. The way she addresses those childhood wounds we all carry hits home so hard—it’s as if she’s been in my shoes! The book is laid out nicely; it’s not overwhelming to read at all. At first, I was skeptical about self-help stuff like this since I’ve tried a few before without much luck. But Dr. Oh really offers some solid perspectives that helped me acknowledge feelings I’d pushed aside for ages! It’s comforting yet empowering at the same time—like having coffee with an old friend who gives you sound life tips while also cheering you on.
Lisa from Vancouver, Canada –
I picked up Oh Eun-young’s “Reconciliation Courage to face the wounded inner ‘me'” after hearing a buddy rave about it. Honestly, it’s been quite eye-opening! The way she tackles those hidden wounds we all carry is just brilliant. I really appreciated how accessible and straightforward her advice was—it felt like chatting with an old friend who actually gets it. There’s some serious wisdom in here, especially when she talks about childhood struggles that stick around longer than they should. Since reading this, I’ve started being kinder to myself—like acknowledging my feelings instead of shoving them aside for once! If you’re looking for a bit of comfort wrapped in clear guidance, this might be your jam.
Lily from Austin, USA –
Honestly, I wasn’t sure what to expect when I picked up Oh Eun-young’s book. But lemme tell ya, it hit me right in the feels! It’s not just fluff; she gives some solid advice that resonates on a real personal level. As someone who’s carried my share of emotional baggage from childhood (don’t we all?), her words about facing those wounds felt like having a heart-to-heart with an old friend who really gets it. The layout is nice too—320 pages might seem hefty but each one felt like stepping onto safe ground rather than diving into drama. If you’re struggling or know someone who is, this could be the warm hug you didn’t realize you needed!
Michael from Toronto, Canada –
Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to face the wounded inner me’ is a profound read. The book delves deep into emotional wounds stemming from childhood, addressing feelings of hatred and guilt that can accumulate over time. Dr. Oh provides warm comfort through clear advice on acknowledging one’s feelings and desires, which helped me confront my own past issues head-on. With 320 pages packed with valuable insights, I found it relatable and healing; her approach empowered me to embrace vulnerability instead of turning away from it.
Emily from Austin, USA –
Reading Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to face the wounded inner me’ has been a transformative experience for me. Dr. Oh addresses deep-seated emotions, especially those related to childhood, with warmth and practical advice. Her focus on recognizing and validating our wounds helped me understand my own struggles better. The book’s structured approach made it easier for me to confront painful memories without feeling overwhelmed. It’s comforting yet empowering—exactly what I needed in my healing journey.