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发行日期 01/10/2019
页数、重量、尺寸 320 页 | 660g | 152*214*30mm
销量突破 20 万纪念版
献给不得不面对内心痛苦的你
吴恩瑛博士的温暖慰藉和明确建议
我们表面上若无其事地生活着,但我们都带着刺痛自己内心的荆棘生活着。我们当中有谁不生病呢?在父母和孩子之间的绝对关系中,有时仇恨、痛苦、怨恨和内疚会滋生,并在内心留下未解决的伤口。因为那个伤口,很多人在不知道为什么的情况下,都在与生活的痛苦和负担作斗争。
承认我对童年时期所受到的伤害的感受,接受我是一个拥有各种欲望的存在,并认识到我真实的自我,将使我能够在未来的许多日子里以一种稳定的感觉生活。作为一名精神科医生,本书深入分析了大量痛苦的故事,这些故事通过心理咨询涌入纸上,作者不知道该怎么办,来到作者面前倾诉他们破碎的心,这些痛苦来自哪里,以及如何处理它。它包含了经过痛苦研究的最佳建议。
每个人都觉得生活不容易,但那些在童年时期与父母的关系中经历过模糊和恐惧的人,生活会更加困难。对于那些累得坐不下来的人,对于那些已经足够疲惫的人,作者告诉你,试着更努力地注意到我。当时的你,当你什么都做不了的时候,和现在的你是不一样的。这本书给予温暖的安慰和明确的建议,相信你有内在的力量说,你当时受伤了,现在仍然受伤。
目录
· 开篇 | 曾经如此痛苦的“你”,我们之中谁又不是“你”呢?
第一部分. 父母,但是...
我怎么能以父母的身份做出那样的事呢?
- 什么样的父母才会如此令人厌恶?
- 讨厌你的父母是可以的
- 并非所有父母都“称职”
- 说“我恨你”。承认那“太难了”
- 你可能会理解,但可能不会被原谅
- 保持距离。不要试图做好
- 如果你将你的父母与我分开,并将他们作为不同的实体来研究
- 为什么父母只记得他们做得好的事情,而孩子只记得他们做得不好的事情?
那是一种爱得越深,痛苦越多的爱。
第二部分. 所以,我...
这不是你的错,那么你无能为力
- 我讨厌我的父母,在那颗心下,讨厌我的心更大
- 我甚至无法自己决定最小的事情
- 我只是忍受着毫无意义的事情
- 当我认为这是我的父母希望我做的事情时,我讨厌这样做。
- 我一直遇到坏人
- 我不能说“不”。人际关系很困难
- 没有时间去爱,因为有太多的“应该”
- 父母打我,我打孩子
- 公司的人在欺负人。看看公司就知道了
- 我有性洁癖。孩子的性教育令人担忧
- 孩子无视没有上过大学的父母
- 当太难时,我想“我希望我能死去”
- 我不断地在无数琐碎的日常生活中后悔
- 即使我一点也不理解,我也会感到被抛弃
- 我能与我内心的痛苦和绝望和解吗?
第三部分. 但再次,父母...
不要害怕,你的孩子不像你。
- 你说你不想成为像我妈妈一样的母亲
- 你的孩子永远不会像你一样伟大。不要害怕
- 你为什么这么抱歉?内疚不是母爱
- 纪律是必要的。但不要害怕
- 我认为孩子真的不属于我
- 不像孩子的孩子实际上生病了。
- 父母总是要再次伸出援手
- 在育儿面前不要太暴躁,没关系
- 不要把孩子的情绪带入你的想法中
- 培养孩子的自信心
- 最终,“与父母的温暖回忆”是最重要的
- 如果想要好好成长的想法变得太强烈,那就是“我的贪婪”
第四部分. 再次,我...
如果你知道痛苦从哪里开始,你也必须知道幸福从哪里来。
- 与我内心的自我握手就是“和解”
-“这有什么好难过的?”并和我谈谈
- 承认我受到的伤害和我内心的渴望,并接受我
- 不要遭受太多的痛苦,以至于我生命的根基被动摇。
- “啊,我要重新开始了,警惕!”我必须对自己大喊
- 只要你不受苦,现在这样也没关系
- 你是个好人,但我并不喜欢你的一切
- 避免比死亡更讨厌的事情是生活在世界上的智慧
- 我现在走的这条路很可能就是最好的。
- 我只是为给定的日子尽我所能
· 结尾 | 每天晚上睡前原谅我











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Felix Schmidt from Berlin, Deutschland –
In meiner ersten Sitzung mit Oh Eun-young’s Buch lernte ich, die verdeckten Emotionen aus der Kindheit zu konfrontieren. Ihr Rat beruhigte und half mir, alten Schmerz loszulassen.
Cassandra Alvarez from Toronto, Canada –
Dr. Oh Eun-young’s book ‘Reconciliation: Courage to Face the Wounded Inner You’ is an emotional guide, truly necessary for anyone navigating through layers of personal trauma. Set against a backdrop of understanding the often-silenced grief many carry, it delves into familial dynamics in such poignant detail that readers can’t help but feel their wounds being gently acknowledged and healed. Compared to other self-help books out there—which might merely skim surface emotions—Oh invites us deep into reflection, unraveling painful threads with wisdom and tenderness unique in this genre.
Jessica Lang from New York City –
Reading Dr. Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to Face the Wounded Inner Me’ is like stepping into a soothing sanctuary amidst the chaos of life’s battles. Unlike typical self-help books, where sweeping phrases drown in generalities, this volume invites introspection on deeper scars left by our closest bonds—primarily parent-child relationships. For someone wrestling with silent burdens rooted from youth yet caught up in today’s demanding rush (think New York’s fast pace), this book serves as an invaluable compass pointing towards understanding and acceptance rather than mere tolerance or escapism. The engaging narrative softens resilience, providing not just comfort but actionable steps for emotional healing that resonate long after putting it down.
Oliver Greene from Vancouver, Canada –
Reading Dr. Eun-young Oh’s book felt like finding a gentle hand holding mine in my darkest moments—she helped me unpack years of silence surrounding childhood wounds I never realized weighed so heavy.
サユリ 秋野 from トロント, カナダ (已验证买家) –
最初に、私がこの本を手に取った理由は他の著者による精神的な解説には疑念を抱いていたからです。しかし、オ・ウンヨン氏の言葉が次第に心に響きました。この作品では幼少期への視点変更が力強く語られ、自身の日常生活にも深い理解と癒しへ導くものがあります。彼女は暗闇で育った傷跡について触れることで、その過去との和解を促します。そして今、それぞれがお持ちになる無数の欲求や気持ちを見ることができました。誰も自分だけではないというメッセージのおかげで、新たな希望さえ見つけることもできます。他人との差異でも同調感覚が感じられて、一体性ありながら独特。本書から受け取って確信しています。
Marisol Luyando from Lima, Peru –
At first glance, I wondered how a book could truly unravel the chaos buried beneath years of silence and expectation. Oh Eun-young’s *Reconciliation* dared to dive deep into those jagged caverns where emotions have been hidden away like long-forgotten heirlooms. As someone raised under the watchful gaze of rigid traditions in Lima, Peru, it resonated with my own battles against suffocating familial shadows. Her gentle yet assertive guidance felt almost intrusive yet liberating; every page crafted as an olive branch toward healing an oft-ignored inner dialogue. If you allow it entry into your heart—and yes, that’s terrifying—the clarity might just change everything about how we navigate life’s hurdles draped in personal despair.
Sofía Morales from Oaxaca, Mexico –
You ever read something that feels like it just sees right through you? Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation’ is one of those reads. I swear, every page made me feel a bit lighter—like shedding some emotional baggage without even realizing how heavy it was until then. Growing up with parental expectations in Mexico wasn’t easy, and the way she addresses unresolved pain hit home so hard. It’s not therapy; it’s more like having a wise friend who’s been there all along and knows exactly what you’re dealing with on the inside while still offering hope to heal! Seriously recommend if you’re carrying stuff from childhood.
Sarai Antunes from Salvador, Brazil –
Eun-young’s work resonated deeply, unveiling layers of emotional strife embedded within familial bonds. A poignant reminder to embrace one’s shadows for true healing.
Jordan from Melbourne, Australia –
Man, this book is a real gem! Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to Face the Wounded Inner Me’ really hits home. I didn’t expect it would resonate so deeply with me as I’ve had my fair share of emotional ups and downs growing up. The way Dr. Oh explains those unresolved feelings we carry from childhood? It’s like she knew what was rattling around in my head! Each chapter gave me some solid insights on recognizing and accepting those old wounds instead of shoving them away. It’s written beautifully—very comforting yet straightforward advice without being overly flowery or complicated, which is just how I like things.
I honestly felt lighter after reading through it; it’s one thing to talk about your struggles but another entirely when you get that clarity from someone who truly understands these hidden battles we all face inside ourselves. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or even just curious about emotional health, give this a go!
Liam from Melbourne, Australia –
So, I recently picked up Oh Eun-young’s “Reconciliation: Courage to Face the Wounded Inner ‘Me'” and wow, it really hit home. The book dives deep into those childhood wounds we all tend to brush off, ya know? Dr. Eunyoung’s writing style is super warm and relatable—like having a heartfelt chat with an understanding friend who knows exactly what you’re going through. The advice she offers feels genuine; it’s not just fluff but rather practical stuff that you can actually apply in real life! I’m now more aware of my feelings about past experiences I’ve buried away for too long. After finishing it, I felt lighter somehow—it’s like shedding some old skin or something! Definitely recommend this if you’re on a self-discovery journey because honestly, we’ve all got some thorns we need to face!
Sarah from Perth, Australia –
So, I picked up Oh Eun-young’s *Reconciliation Courage to Face the Wounded Inner ‘Me’* and wow, it’s a real gem! The book is all about dealing with those tough childhood wounds we tend to brush off. You know how it goes—smiling on the outside while battling inner demons? Dr. Eun-young just nails that feeling. Each of the 320 pages feels like she’s sitting right there beside you offering gentle advice and comfort, not judgment.
What really stuck out for me were her exercises; they encourage reflection but in an easy way—I wasn’t overwhelmed at all! After going through this treasure trove of insights, I felt more accepting of my past baggage instead of running from it. Honestly, if you’re carrying some emotional weight or just wanna learn about yourself better, this read could be your perfect companion! It might sound corny but I’m actually pretty grateful for having stumbled upon it.
Jessica from Sydney, Australia –
I recently got my hands on Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to Face the Wounded Inner Me,’ and let me tell ya, it was a real game changer for me. The way she digs into those childhood wounds we often shove down? Spot on! Dr. Oh has this warm approach that feels like chatting with an old friend rather than reading some clinical book. Each chapter just hits home; I mean, you can really relate to the whole concept of dealing with pain that’s been tucked away in our hearts for too long. It’s not all fluffy self-help either—there’s clear advice that pushes you towards acceptance and healing without feeling overwhelmed.
The layout is easy on the eyes, which is always nice since I’m usually juggling a busy schedule here in Sydney between work and family stuff. This isn’t just another trendy read but something meaningful that’ll stick with ya after you’ve turned the last page.
I’d definitely recommend it to anyone looking to face their past instead of hiding from it!
Anna from New York, USA –
Reading ‘Oh Eun-young’s Reconciliation’ was an enlightening experience. Dr. Oh offers warm comfort and clear advice that resonates deeply with those of us dealing with childhood wounds. The book consists of 320 pages filled with insights on how to confront feelings of resentment and guilt, making the reader feel understood rather than judged. I appreciated how it encouraged me to acknowledge my emotions instead of suppressing them, ultimately aiding my personal recovery journey significantly.
Katie from Toronto, Canada –
So, I just wrapped up Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation’ and honestly? It’s been a game changer. It’s packed with advice that feels personal, like she gets where I’m coming from. The way she addresses those childhood wounds we all carry hits home so hard—it’s as if she’s been in my shoes! The book is laid out nicely; it’s not overwhelming to read at all. At first, I was skeptical about self-help stuff like this since I’ve tried a few before without much luck. But Dr. Oh really offers some solid perspectives that helped me acknowledge feelings I’d pushed aside for ages! It’s comforting yet empowering at the same time—like having coffee with an old friend who gives you sound life tips while also cheering you on.
Lisa from Vancouver, Canada –
I picked up Oh Eun-young’s “Reconciliation Courage to face the wounded inner ‘me'” after hearing a buddy rave about it. Honestly, it’s been quite eye-opening! The way she tackles those hidden wounds we all carry is just brilliant. I really appreciated how accessible and straightforward her advice was—it felt like chatting with an old friend who actually gets it. There’s some serious wisdom in here, especially when she talks about childhood struggles that stick around longer than they should. Since reading this, I’ve started being kinder to myself—like acknowledging my feelings instead of shoving them aside for once! If you’re looking for a bit of comfort wrapped in clear guidance, this might be your jam.
Lily from Austin, USA –
Honestly, I wasn’t sure what to expect when I picked up Oh Eun-young’s book. But lemme tell ya, it hit me right in the feels! It’s not just fluff; she gives some solid advice that resonates on a real personal level. As someone who’s carried my share of emotional baggage from childhood (don’t we all?), her words about facing those wounds felt like having a heart-to-heart with an old friend who really gets it. The layout is nice too—320 pages might seem hefty but each one felt like stepping onto safe ground rather than diving into drama. If you’re struggling or know someone who is, this could be the warm hug you didn’t realize you needed!
Michael from Toronto, Canada –
Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to face the wounded inner me’ is a profound read. The book delves deep into emotional wounds stemming from childhood, addressing feelings of hatred and guilt that can accumulate over time. Dr. Oh provides warm comfort through clear advice on acknowledging one’s feelings and desires, which helped me confront my own past issues head-on. With 320 pages packed with valuable insights, I found it relatable and healing; her approach empowered me to embrace vulnerability instead of turning away from it.
Emily from Austin, USA –
Reading Oh Eun-young’s ‘Reconciliation Courage to face the wounded inner me’ has been a transformative experience for me. Dr. Oh addresses deep-seated emotions, especially those related to childhood, with warmth and practical advice. Her focus on recognizing and validating our wounds helped me understand my own struggles better. The book’s structured approach made it easier for me to confront painful memories without feeling overwhelmed. It’s comforting yet empowering—exactly what I needed in my healing journey.