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発行日 2019年10月1日
ページ数、重量、サイズ 320ページ | 660g | 152*214*30mm

20万部突破記念復刻版

目を背けたかった心の痛みに向き合わなければならないあなたへ
オ・ウニョン博士の温かい慰めと明確なアドバイス

私たちは何事もなかったかのように外で生きていますが、誰もが心にトゲが刺さったまま生きています。病気にならない人はいないのでしょうか?親子の絶対的な関係の中で、時には憎しみ、痛み、恨み、罪悪感が募り、未解決の傷を心に残します。その傷のせいで、多くの人が理由もわからずに人生の苦しみや重荷に苦しんでいます。

幼少期に受けた傷に対する自分の気持ちを認め、自分が様々な欲求を持つ存在であることを受け入れ、本当の自分を認識することで、これから先の多くの日々を安定した気持ちで生きていくことができるようになります。精神科医として、本書は、著者のもとにやってきて、どうすればいいかわからず打ち砕かれた心を吐露した人々の苦痛がどこから来たのか、そしてどのように対処すればいいのかを、精神カウンセリングを通して寄せられた数々の苦痛な物語を紙上で徹底的に分析しています。苦悩の中で研究された最高のアドバイスが盛り込まれています。

誰もが人生は楽ではないと感じていますが、幼少期に親との関係で曖昧さや恐怖を経験した人は、より生きづらさを感じています。座るのも疲れてしまったあなたへ、十分に疲れてしまったあなたへ、著者はもう少し自分に気づいてみてほしいと語りかけます。何もできなかったあの時のあなたと、今のあなたは違います。本書は、あの時傷ついた、今も傷ついていると言えるだけの内なる力があると信じられるような、温かい慰めと明確なアドバイスを与えてくれます。

 

目次

・オープニング | そんなに苦しかった「あなた」、私たちの中で「あなた」ではない人はいないでしょう?

パート1. 親、だけど...
親として、どうしてあんなことができたのだろう?

- そんなに病んでいる親ってどんな親なの?
-親を憎んでもいい
-すべての親が「親らしい」わけではない
- 「嫌い」と言ってみる。「つらすぎた」と告白する
- 理解はできても、許されないかもしれない
-距離を置く。良い子になろうとしない
-親を自分から切り離して、別の存在として研究すれば
-なぜ親は自分がうまくやったことだけを覚え、子供は自分が下手だったことだけを覚えているのだろうか?
愛すれば愛するほど、より多くの痛みを与えた愛だった。

パート2. それで、私は...
あなたのせいではない、あなたはそうせざるを得なかった

-親が嫌い、私を嫌う心はその心の下でより大きい
- 私は一番小さなことさえ自分で決められない
-私はただ、意味のないことに耐えている
- 親が私に望んでいると思うことをするのが嫌いだ。
-私は悪い男にばかり出会う
- 「ノー」と言えない。人間関係が難しい
- 「すべきこと」がたくさんあるので、愛する時間がない
-親が私を殴り、私が子供を殴る
- 会社の人々がいじめている。会社を見てください
-私は性的な不潔恐怖症です。子供の性教育が心配です
-子供は大学に行かなかった親を無視する
-つらすぎるとき、「死んでしまいたい」と思う
- 私は数え切れないほどの些細な日常生活で後悔し続ける
- 少しでも理解してもらえないと見捨てられたように感じる
- 私は内なる痛みと絶望と和解できるのだろうか?

パート3. でもまた、親...
恐れないで、あなたの子はあなたとは違う。

-あなたは私のような母親になりたくないと言う
- あなたの子はあなたほど大きくはならない。恐れないで
- なぜそんなに申し訳なく思うの?罪悪感は母性愛ではない
- しつけは必要です。でも怖がらないで
- 子供は本当に私のものではないと思う
- 子供らしくなかった子供は、実は病気だった。
- 親は常に再び手を差し伸べなければならない
-育児の前で脾臓を使いすぎないで、大丈夫です
-子供の気持ちを自分の考えに持ち込まないで
- 子供の自己肯定感を育むために
-結局、「親との温かい思い出」が最も重要です
-うまく成長したいという思いが強くなりすぎると、その中に「私の欲」がある

パート4. そしてまた、私は...
痛みがどこから始まるかを知っていれば、幸せがどこから来るかも知っているはずです。

- 内なる自分と手をつなぐことは「和解」です
-「これはそんなに悲しむことなのか?」と私に話しかける
- 受けた傷と内なる欲求を認め、私を受け入れる
-私の人生の根が揺さぶられるほど苦しまないでください。
- 「ああ、私はまた始めるんだ、警戒!」と自分に叫ばなければならない
-あなたが苦しまない限り、今のままで大丈夫です
- あなたは良い人ですが、私はあなたのすべてが好きではありません
-死ぬよりも嫌いなことを避けることは、世の中を生きる知恵です
-私が今歩んでいる道が最良である可能性が非常に高いです。
-私は与えられた日のために最善を尽くすだけです

・クロージング | 寝る前に毎晩私を許してください

Customer Reviews

Based on 18 reviews
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